No webinar but, my goodness, an amazing TED talk on body language or non verbal expressions by a wonderful, inspirational speaker called Amy Cuddy – Your body language may shape who you are.
I never really thought about my body affecting my state of mind. We have focused on the mind being the controller of how we feel and learning to becoming the pilots of our thoughts. But, how do we switch this around? Or, indeed, combine the two?
Studies have taken place and the evidence is there. What do I have to do? I stand up tall with hands on hips, affectionally called the wonder women pose! I feel my chest open. By doing this my lungs have more room to expand but that is just what I am consciously aware of. What I cannot see is the changes within. These changes within show themselves to others as presence, authenticity. One slide that Amy included in her talk sums it up beautifully
“Our bodies change our minds
And our minds change our behaviour
Our behaviour changes our outcome”.
This is incredibly simple, and incredibly powerful stuff.
I’m off to strike a pose and hold a pencil in my mouth – faking a smile this way is proven to make you feel happier!
In other news this week – continuing with the gratitude cards, awareness of kindness, exercise class, meditation class – feels like I am incredibly busy. Some unexpected orders through for my business and a potential new customer which is wonderful.
It is all go. I feel challenged certainly, and have to admit that it has got a bit too much on occasion. Time to regroup, refocus and pull back into the path that leads the way onwards to my future me. But this has become cloudy, I’m full of questions, even more so than before. I persist with faith that the answers will come. So I keep asking myself, what would the person I intend to become do next? But what if I don’t yet feel that I know the person I wish to become well enough to answer this? So, I grab onto what I can and realise I do know the future me better than I think. I know that the future me will be confident, happy, kind, focused, well organized, have courage, persistence. I think that is enough to go on!
Keeping up with the gratitude cards and I’ve been doing this for a while now and I wonder why I’m not running out of things to be grateful for. An increased awareness of the things around me means that it doesn’t seem to be a problem. And it’s the simple things we realise that we cherish, such as the time we have with those we love. This week some of the things I have been grateful for are being able to help my Mum with the crossword, grateful that I was able to get my boots mended and grateful for my clean drinking water.
Gratitude, Like Faith, Is A Muscle, the more you use it, the stronger it grows, and the more power you have to use it on your behalf.
If you do not practice gratefulness, its benefaction will go unnoticed, and your capacity to draw on its gifts will be diminished. To be grateful is to find blessings in everything. This is the most powerful attitude to adopt, for there are blessings in everything”. Alan Cohen